Preparing for Battle: A Letter to My Younger Self

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by Paris Dancy |

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Dear Paris,

Nineteen years from now, life for you will be very different. I know that at this point in your life, you can’t possibly imagine how different it will be. The challenges ahead will completely change your views, your perspective about life, and your decision-making process.

As you read this, you are a standout athlete in college, and you are doing well, but it won’t last long. You were one of the top athletes in high school, but in college, you will learn that many other athletes are just as good, or better. This will force you to dig deep, and it will test your character.

Ultimately, you will make a decision that will transition you to a place of limbo that many other athletes have dealt with when they stopped playing. The best way to describe it is trying to find your identity after losing a key part of yourself.

The battle ahead

This period of your life will teach you to rely on your foundation and pull from several lessons taught to you during your childhood. The battle ahead will be unlike anything you’ve faced before. You will have several obstacles to overcome from this point forward.

However, the massive adenoma that doctors discovered at the base of your brain, which completely covers your pituitary gland, will be the most difficult. This organ is very important for a person’s mental and physical health, and when it doesn’t function properly, the endocrine system can’t operate successfully.

This will cause your body to experience struggles you never thought to prepare for. The situation will blindside you in a way that will cause you to either make the necessary health changes and live, or continue down the same destructive path, possibly leading to an early death.

You may not have fully known what it meant to be a husband when you chose to get married, but just know that you made the right choice. Your wife refused to allow you to lie down and die. She will dig deep and force you to dig deep, too. She will support you in ways you never knew about. Her belief in both God and you will play a tremendous part in your progress.

And when it was all said and done, you did good, kid! Your parents were a huge support system for both of you. Never forget to show them continual respect, love, and appreciation.

Remember, it’s not about you

I would like to encourage you to keep moving forward. During your hardest times, understand that giving up is not an option. If you quit, you will never see the greater things that lie ahead of you. Understand and know that everything you are going through is so much bigger than you.

You will end up helping many people. I know you don’t fully understand all of this right now, but try to weather the storm. Eventually, you will begin to see life-changing progress that not only will benefit you, but also everyone around you.

You will become a great man, just not in the way you had assumed. Trust God and the process!


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Brenda avatar


I am 65 and disabled, 2 years ago diagnosed with Cushing's. Misdiagnosed for years and treated with tapazole for thyroid gland for 15 years. My heart, brain, kidneys, liver, arthritis, thyroid eyes, osteoporosis, skin are all damaged and all parts have their own doctor and meds. At 206 lbs and 5'1" this disease has ravaged my body. Currently working with UAB Kirklin Clinic in Alabama but not much improvement to date. Pray they can help me. These stories help me keep fighting.

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Carey Simon

Definitely hang in there! I was misdiagnosed for 20 years. I had every exact health problem that you are currently struggling with. I had my pituitary tumor removed in 2013. Getting back to my pre self. A very slow process , but you will feel so much better if you are able to remove the tumor. I struggled so much daily trying to work 12 he shifts and my kids were young. It was def worth the struggle. You will feel like a new person soon 😀


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