Years may pass by, but what I’m thankful for never changes

“Let’s go around the table and share what we’re thankful for.” It’s the typical question we all hear during Thanksgiving. For me, my answer never changes. I’m incredibly thankful for my partner, who is not only an amazing husband but also a fantastic caregiver. I’m so grateful to have him in my life for the ninth Thanksgiving in a row, and I wouldn’t want it any other way.

I’m very aware of the physical challenges my husband faces as my caregiver. I had transsphenoidal surgery for Cushing’s disease in 2020. This procedure involved removing a tumor from my pituitary gland through my nose. It was exhausting, and it took me several months to recover. My husband was there every step of the way. He prepared my meals, assisted me with showering, brushed my hair, and ensured I was always comfortable.

When a second tumor developed, I needed a wheelchair and spent most of my time bedbound until I received medical treatment that helped me get back on my feet. My partner wheeled me around, stood up for me when people didn’t understand my situation, and meticulously tracked all of my medications.

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I always understood the sacrifices he made, and I was grateful for them. However, I didn’t fully comprehend the emotional toll of being a caregiver until recently. My partner received a positive test result for an illness. Although everything seems fine now, I experienced extreme panic during that time. I spent hours researching the illness, jumped at every phone call, and could barely sleep, as the thought of my partner facing something like this overwhelmed me.

It was only then that I truly grasped the sacrifices my partner has made as my caregiver. Managing medication is simple compared with the dread that fills your heart when contemplating the possibility of your loved one being sick.

My husband often worries when I push myself too hard. He panics when I need to go to the hospital. I sometimes expect him to remain calm when I do, but the truth is that watching someone you love endure challenges can be just as difficult as experiencing it yourself. He worries about me constantly, just as many caregivers do about their loved ones.

I take immense pride in my relationship. Gaining a better understanding of what my partner goes through will only help me become a better partner to him and a kinder person during times of fear and uncertainty. Because as much as I face challenges, he does, too. He has been by my side through it all, battling his own issues while supporting me.

As we gather around the table and respond to the same familiar question each year, “What are you thankful for?” my answer remains unchanged. I am thankful for my partner. But this year, I have a deeper understanding of all the reasons I should be grateful for him, including the emotional and physical challenges he endures to take care of me.

Sometimes, it’s easy to get caught up in our own struggles and forget how they affect those around us. This year, make sure to give your caregivers an extra hug and try to see things from their perspective. Caregivers are our partners in this journey, and I couldn’t be happier with the one I have chosen.

You can also follow my journey on TikTok and YouTube.

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